Unlocking the Chemistry: The 4 Key Ingredients for Attraction in Relationships

So, How do you feel about yourself? Are you attractive?

Did you say NO? Stop that right now!

There are many elements to being attractive to yourself and to someone else. You can go deep in conversation and psychological analysis with the mini question, "What do you think is attractive?" This is an article, not a book, so I encourage you to have this conversation with your bestie. Ask questions and see if you change your thoughts or add to your perspective.

Let me sum it up here in four ingredients. While attraction is a foundation, you need all four elements to make it work.

Here are four ingredients for you to whip up a batch of personalized magnetism.

1. One Giant Scoop of Positive Mindset

A positive mindset is paramount. Without it, all the other ingredients are stale. Seek beauty in others. There are some dark souls out there in the world. But don't let them in. Keeping a positive mindset may be a challenge some days. To refocus, find genuine compliments to give to the people around you. Complements help you to see positive behaviors, traits, or skills. Yep, you will need to look. The person receiving compliments is lucky enough to hear your thoughts and feel connected to you. Look for the good in humans, and you will find it and, in turn, feel connected with them. The more people you like, the more people will like you.

2. A shovel full of Selfcare

Do you look tired? If you do, you may be distracted from your inner character. Taking care of yourself is an understatement. You are the only one you have. The vast majority of us can step this up. Sleeping, eating healthier, and more physical exercise are considerable steps in the right direction. Feeling better about your physical self will help you present your best emotional and competent self. In that case, get your hair cut and care for your skin.

3. A colossal dose of interesting

Shut off your TV and quit scrolling. I have been on too many dates where we connect over the TV shows or movies we watch rather than quality topics. There are a gazillion things to do other than Netflix and chill. I know. I like it too sometimes. So, at least cut back to watching only what you enjoy. Hours of TV every night does not create energy or magnetism. So let's substitute. Engaging in activities you genuinely enjoy can make you an interesting and fun person. Learn to play an instrument. Garden. Learn to cook. Learn to throw a pot. Read. Learn to skateboard. Volunteer. Get some chickens. I found great fun in learning to box. Doing anything you enjoy will make you more at peace and contribute to a positive mindset. You can change your screen habits.

4. A customized set of standards

Standards and boundaries are behaviors that we exhibit to demonstrate to others what we stand for and where we draw a metaphorical emotional line. Defining standards can be challenging at various points in our lives, but it is so easy when we judge other people.

I'd never wear that. I'd never eat that, or I'd love to eat that. Did you smell Joe? I'm always the last to leave work. All my kids make their beds. I'd never go home with a man before he said he loved me. I'd never quit a job before I had another. I'd never date someone living in a van by the river.

Are your standards contributing to a better you? Setting standards that help you develop a positive mindset, practice self-care, and indulge in meaningful activities without judging others is ideal. Set your standards to be achievable and keep them high. High standards are more attractive than low or average standards. Your standards represent the value you bring to a relationship. Think about the standard of caring. How will someone care for you? How will you care for another?

Your income is irrelevant; it is about values. For example, you don't have to be wealthy to have a clean, well-kept home. What are you standing for?

Lastly, stir in all your confidence for the winning combination.

Keep your mixture together with confidence glue. Your confidence also lets you crack a joke, genuinely apologize, or state your firm thoughts. You need to know (be confident) that you are attractive, yet you can continue improving.

Once you have all your ingredients stirred with confidence, insert your mix in your heart and continue to bake, basting regularly, and Enjoy.