Leave Word of the Year behind: Your Life Needs a "Signature."
- hellomskari
- Dec 29, 2025
- 3 min read
Updated: Dec 30, 2025
Your 2026 Relationship Signature
If I followed you for a month, I could tell your relationship signature without asking a single question. It shows in how you return messages, handle disappointment, and whether you clean things up quickly or let them drift. Your signature isn’t what you think about yourself: it’s the pattern others experience.
Words vs. Signatures
As a coach, I love January because people are more open to self-development than at any other time of the year. It’s exciting to hear people talk about what change will make them happier, healthier, wealthier, or more fulfilled.
Many people pick a word of the year: Peace. Abundance. Alignment. Glow. It looks nice on paper and feels good to join in the fun with everyone else who chooses a word. If you want to level up this year, we need to lean into a signature rather than a word. So, what's your signature?
A signature shows up under pressure, when expectations don’t match, and silence feels easier than clarity. It's as unique as your fingerprint. If you don't have a signature, I want to prompt you to adopt Integrity. If you spend an entire year working on your integrity and delving into its depths, I genuinely believe you will be happier, healthier, and even wealthier. If you'd like to choose something else, that's fine with me. I'm simply thrilled that you are working on something.
Quick Story
A woman once said she was “big on integrity.” Three minutes later, she explained why she hadn’t responded to someone she was dating:
“I didn’t want to hurt his feelings.”
Comfort just stepped in to drive and left her integrity roadside. This signature shows up in friendships and at work, but shows up in romantic relationships with a spotlight attached. Are we keeping this or growing?
What Integrity Looks Like in Relationships
Integrity shows in the small, inconvenient moments. It looks like:
Addressing tension early instead of avoiding it
Following through even when it’s inconvenient
Ending things clearly rather than fading away
Aligning actions with words, even when it’s uncomfortable
Also: listening, owning impact, and adjusting without defensiveness. That’s emotional maturity in action. There is so much growth in this signature.
You Can Choose a Different Signature
Integrity isn’t the only option. Choose a signature that strengthens the connection and stretches you slightly:
Clarity – Be easy to read, consistent in words and actions
Courage – Speak truth and take healthy risks in connection
Consistency – Show up reliably over time
Presence – Stay engaged even when it’s uncomfortable
Kindness – Deliver messages with care
How to choose:
Reflect on feedback: where do people feel confused or hurt?
Notice your patterns: where do you get stuck, or where do you default to comfort?
Pick a guiding principle that shapes your response under pressure.
How to Know You’re Living Your Signature
You’ll notice it when:
Conversations are clearer
People feel calmer around you
Repairs happen faster
Trust grows, especially in romantic relationships
Your nervous system relaxes - Other people are more comfortable around you or know what to expect from you. It's your signature.
If you get stuck:
Pause and acknowledge it
Return to the conversation with a trusted advisor
Own the impact
Align your next action with your chosen signature
Your Invitation for the upcoming year
Choose a signature that holds under pressure. Not the kind you hope people notice—the kind they actually experience.
Steady. Clear. Trustworthy.
Shapes every relationship you touch.
Especially the one that matters most.
Work on your signature all year long and feel its impact. The magic happens in the work. Let's get started.
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